It hits with the force of 10,000 bricks smacking into your
face. It is usually unexpected to all around and the person it is coming from.
This is no 0-60 it is 0-100,000. There is no rolling thunder
just a bolt of lightning to stun before the storm gets underway.
Then, as quickly as it appeared, it disappears.
It’s scary, it’s frightening, it’s unpredictable, it’s The
RAGE and it seems to be inside us all.
My realisation of The RAGE was at the weekend when I was
going through an old magazine which I hadn’t yet read (It was dated 26th
Feb 2017, this time next year I should be up to date with my March magazines).
I was in the car coming back from one of our weekend walks
with the dog with my partner and our kids, when I came across an article in
Fabulous Magazine (Free in The Sun on Sunday’s), called ‘The rage epidemic’.
The writer of the article explained how she was having a
hard time ‘keeping her cool’. I sniggered to myself and sympathised with her
when suddenly, as we were pulling up at my parent’s house for dinner, something
stirred inside me.
It was as if my mind suddenly went Well, that seems like a good idea, we haven’t raged in a while so why
not have a little go now?
So I did...
I looked across to my partner who had said absolutely nothing
for the past 20 minutes and opened my mouth:
‘YOU’RE NOT BRINGING THAT BLOODY DOG INTO MY PARENTS HOUSE,
HE WINDS US ALL UP AND I CAN’T DEAL WITH HIM RIGHT NOW.’
He looked at me blankly and The RAGE kept tumbling out of my
mouth,
‘BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH...’
I went on for another couple of minutes, stomped into my
parent’s house, took a deep breath and said:
‘Sorry about that.’
And our lives carried on as though nothing had happened, well,
apart from the confused look on my partners face.
It is weird and confusing for us both when this happens (admittedly
it happens a couple of times a week), but according to the article in Fabulous
magazine one in four of us worry about how angry we feel.
Speaking to friends I have realised that we all have RAGE
inside us which we let out (and sometimes enjoy doing so) but I think the key to
handling it, is not let The RAGE take over.
Since reading the article I have tried to take a step back
when I can feel the bubbling inside me before I explode, I have tried to take a
deep breath and take it down a notch. My God does it burn to do that sometimes,
but afterwards I do feel better for not always shouting at everything and
everyone.
I believe it is healthy to feel The RAGE, but just don’t let
it become you. If in doubt just say to yourself: I’m better than you RAGE, you won’t win. There is always wine around
and wine will always win.
(Wine bottle holder pictured above available at homewetbar.com)
(Pictured above is the original article by Claie Wilson in Fabulous Mag.)
